I love my morning walks, first thing in the morning I gain more clarity in life. This morning I just keep thinking about my sphere of influence and things that are happening in life all around.
If you are anything like me, you were born to serve
Every time I hear someone in pain or crying out for help, I just know there must be a way I can help them. Do you feel like this?
If there is one flaw I have, is caring too much….if that is a flaw? 
I can make it simple by stating that we are all here to learn lessons of many kinds. I think our empathetic nature kicks in when we see someone suffering through something we have experienced, and we know how to help them. But like many situations, not everything is there for us to solve. They too may need to go through the storm and learn.
Recently my oldest son had participated in something I did not agree with, and he gently stated…”Mom, this isn’t about you and sometimes I just need to learn for myself.” He was right, but my soul hurts thinking about the situation, knowing where this will end up and wanting to save him the heartache of the outcome.
While walking today, I was thinking about several people in my life who are doing this exact thing and taking on the burden of responsibility and wanting to resolve and go through the pain of someone else’s suffering. But what we don’t recognize on the front end, is that the other person may require the experience for their life lesson. We can empathize but we should not live as if that belongs to our life’s journey, instead we should be learning from it and taking away what does belong to us.
Unless we are asked to be a participant, we need to set boundaries on what our role should be in the life experiences of others. That trauma affects not only them, but us as well and reliving past traumas does not mean we are helping. It means we are going through the trauma loop again. We can end up stuck in the trauma we have already healed from.
I woke up to this when I realized that my thought patterns and moods were being affected by the way others believe was the truth in the middle of the storm. I was participating in the loop and only later recognized that the whole situation just did NOT belong to me and I was wasting my time and energy.
Although we want to help and are empathetic to the trauma others face, their trauma does not belong to us, it is their path. We just need to be there for support through the process on the outside. It does not mean we have to participate in the loop of anguish.
The burden of responsibly does not belong to you.
Pray and be support, but the burden isn’t yours.
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“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
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